Are male patients comfortable with women doctors?

  | August 25, 2017

Are men less enthusiastic than women about seeing physicians of the opposite gender? Maybe, according to an analysis of more than 2 million primary care visits.

The study, which tracked patient visits on the athenahealth network between January and June 2014, looked at how many patients during that time frame returned to a new practice within 18 months of their first visits.

male patients uncomfortable with female physicians

Roughly half of the patients returned within that time if they shared their physicians' gender. Women returned to male doctors at nearly the same rate. But only 40 percent of male patients returned to their female doctors.

The pattern was particularly true for patients with commercial insurance. While 52 percent of commercially insured male patients returned to their male physicians, only 40 percent returned to female physicians. For commercially insured women, return rates were 51 percent for female physicians and 48 percent for male physicians.

Medicaid was the only insurance type that showed no difference in return rates for men based on the gender of the physician.

The problem doesn't appear to be related to the quality of care that male patients are receiving: A 2017 MedStatix/athenaHealth survey of 40,000 patients showed that men who saw female physicians gave those providers slightly higher ratings than those who saw male physicians.

So, what is the problem? Women have long been accustomed to male doctors – even now, only about a third of practicing physicians are female. Male patients, meanwhile, have expressed reservations about visiting women doctors for some time.

In particular, male patients seem uncomfortable with female physicians' use of chaperones during office visits. Long a common practice when female patients see male physicians, chaperones are meant to make patients feel more at ease during intimate examinations and prevent inappropriate behavior (and false charges of inappropriate behavior) from either party.

However, chaperons can make patients more uncomfortable – male patients in particular are overwhelmingly opposed to any third party in the room, particularly a female chaperone – and most chaperones are female. (For more on the topic, see Chaperones in the exam room -- who gets to decide?

This issue isn't likely to resolve itself soon. Almost half of new medical school graduates are women, and they will represent a growing proportion of the cohort of physicians who are accepting new patients.

One glimmer of optimism: In a recent exchange on quora.com, male patients expressed their preference for female physicians on a number of bases, including superior listening skills and — for certain sensitive procedures — a lighter physical touch.

E.M. Gardner is a writer based in Chicago. Additional reporting by Lia Novotny.

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Why do you think there is only a difference in patients with commercial insurance and not in Medicaid?
Name: 
Brendan
Email: 
test@test.com
I'm a male patient who used to prefer women doctors. Then the one I'd been seeing for several years sprang a female "chaperone" on me with no warning, explanation, or opportunity to refuse.
Name: 
anonymous
Email: 
nobodyhome2004@yahoo.com
You can always refuse; absolutely no one gets to participate in your health care without your informed consent. I've had the same thing happen to me me and my comment to the doc was either she leaves or I do!
Name: 
Ed
Email: 
edkay4ver@yahoo.com
Thank you. I have subsequently learned that I have the right of refusal, but that right needs to be clearly explained BEFORE a spectator is ever brought in. I was already frightened about the possible diagnosis, and it simply didn't occur to me at the time that I could refuse a witness or that my preferences should have been consulted.
Name: 
anonymous
Email: 
guthfamily1@hotmail.com
I regularly go to a lady doctor and over the years have had yearly physicals. She has examined "everything" each year. She is fortyish and nice looking, so I have at times been concerned about what could happen, men have no effective control when we get aroused. It has happened once and she went about her exam although I was totally embarrassed ! She has never had anyone else to come in and seems comfortable and in control. I totally appreciate her skill and would never consider any other primary care doctor.
Name: 
John
Email: 
JRH1985@aol.com
John, the relationship between patient and doctor is important. No matter what the gender is. What you have described is what many men fear in such an exam. It would be assumed that since "it" happened he must be a pervert etc, when that may not be the case at all. Just the mere touch and being nervous is often enough to set it off. As long as you and her are comfortable with the quality of the exam for you health this is great. Many men would be comfortable with such an exam like this with built trust. However many of us have experienced the "ambush" - where that trust is broken, when the female doctor brings in another female chaperone to be in the exam and sees "everything" without asking the man whether the presence of another female would be acceptable. What started off as a great exam, now turns into an embarrassing disaster.That is what happened to me. I was ok, until the second female came in, someone to whom I had never met, and was witness to my testicle exam, and prostate exam. She didn't look away during those parts, she stared straight on. This is where many female doctors need to re-exam their exam procedures, to "ASK" and not assume her male patient will be comfortable with it. This scenario happens ALL the time. In the VERY least, barrier draping could eliminate half the embarrassment, do the other female can't look at his genitals. Contrary to the belief assumed, men do value their modesty, and are just as vulnerable in medical exams as woman. This notion should be taught in every medical school where female nurses, and female doctors are taught. In addition, there is nothing more embarrassing/demeaning to be in a hospital, and have 2 female nurses come in to tell you your doctor has ordered a catheter. And "we" will be giving you that now. Or in the very same way have 2 females in an exam where he will be exposed. This situation , reversed, with a female patient, and 2 males would never happen, ever, and it perplexes me greatly why female doctors continually do this to men. The message need to get out to the medical community, to start giving men EQUAL modesty.
Name: 
Jim
Email: 
jimpatdoyle@gmail.com
Part of the reluctance of men to go to female physicians comes from the propensity of many practices to have 100% female nursing, tech, and office staffs. Men that might be willing to have an intimate exam or procedure with a female physician are not necessarily comfortable with her bringing in a female nurse or other female staff member (as an assistant or chaperone for example). That can take what was a tolerable situation and make it unacceptable to them. Most men are too embarrassed to speak up and instead find it easier to just to not go back to that doctor. Another reason is that men that have never had an intimate exam or procedure by a female physician before might not realize beforehand that they are not comfortable with it, and again, it is easier to just not go back than to speak up.
Name: 
RLU
Email: 
bunderhill53@gmail.com
Yes! You nailed it! I am a 40 year old male. While I am willing to (not happy to, but willing to) have a female physician perform an intimate exam on me, I am absolutely not comfortable with any other female staff in the room for any reason while I am fully exposed. The presence of another fully clothed woman in the room to "observe" turns what would be a tolerable situation into an intolerable situation for me. Thank you for posting that. I now feel like I'm not alone in my thinking.
Name: 
Rich
Email: 
niffoc@yahoo.com
Rich, you are far from alone. If you haven't already found them, check out the Bioethics Discussion Blog: Patient Modesty , and Patient Modesty and Privacy Concerns . You'll find many similar stories, along with helpful advice, encouragement, and support.
Name: 
Anonymous
Email: 
nobodyhome2004@yahoo.com
I don't see what all the fuss is about two females in the room. It's a medical exam, and I have zero reservations about it.
Name: 
Reginald
Email: 
csorhc@yahoo.com
I've had two female doctors examine me before. One was filling in the place when my regular doctor was not available. She was in her early 30s, I believe, and gave me a full physical examination so she therefore saw me fully naked. The other one was maybe late 40s, early 50s and looked at an itchy rash I had around my anus(never really figured out what caused that). I was comfortable with both of them so I wouldn't have any reservation about a female nurse being in the room as well.
Name: 
Mark
Email: 
melgibsonsransom@yahoo.com
Mark -- From your reply, it sounds as though you haven't actually HAD the experience of a female nurse being in the room along with your female doctor. You might feel differently if and when it actually happens, especially if it happens without any warning or advance notice, as it did to me.
Name: 
Anonymous
Email: 
guthfamily1@hotmail.com
Sounds like inappropriate behavior on the part of those women. Why did it take two of them to do an exam? This type of inappropriate behavior goes on because men that are not good with being humiliated don't speak up.
Name: 
Jesse Stone
Email: 
Jesse.stone307@yahoo.com
Jesse, I don't think its about inappropriate behavior most of the time. Its MORE about the money. MOST practices will favor hiring woman to act as chaperones, because woman WILL speak up and say NO to male chaperons or male nurses. (Placing 2 men in the exam with a female patient) However it seems that female doctors are tied, because they know (deep down) that men should be offered the same gender chaperone and modesty level, but need to get through the exam. This is EXACTLY why the ambush occurs. Female Doctor steps out, knock on the door, re-enter with a female chaperone, hoping the male patient will accept it and suck it up. Its wrong to place a male patient in that situation, and I think most male patients ARE embarrassed going through it. We can only hope for change or more males need to start walking out, when the second female comes in. Start complaining to medical boards. It is a valid issue. Especially as more and more females enter the medical field this situation isn't going away. Unless of course the medical field doesn't care about the men who won't go to the doctor when they have an issue, because they wont compromise their modesty. -And rightly they shouldn't have to.
Name: 
Jim
Email: 
jimpatdoyle@gmail.com
Ask the MAJORITY of female patients if they would accept 2 males in the room, during a pap smear, and breast exam. What is good for you, may not be acceptable for others. Remember, in the medical field, its ALL about THE PATIENTS comfort in the exam.......... unless of course..... your gender is male.
Name: 
Jim
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jimpatdoyle@gmail.com
That's exactly right Jim, women would not be good with that but men are expected to deal with it
Name: 
Jesse Stone
Email: 
Jesse.stone307@yahoo.com
Good Afternoon: Rich, there are a whole lot of men in this great country of ours that suffer in silence and those that suffer but say NO to the system. Male doctors understand our dilemma but, they do not seem to communicate the issue to their female MD colleagues that bringing in female chaperones without prior patient approval, is totally unacceptable. Maybe they see it as a way to thin out the competition for patients. In the field of medicine, urology is the worst area for male patients. Many procedures that were once done only in the OR theater in a hospital, or now done on a daily basis in an OR suite next to the doctors office. Before you even get to the humiliation of being placed into a pair of stirrups by a female nurse, then prepped by her with her female chaperone in the room watching, you have to sit at a desk in the office and go over your complete medical history (including sexual if needed), with a female. Urologists seem to have forgotten, they are dealing with a human being first and foremost. A person with emotions and psychological needs. I believe that urologists think if they put a good looking young female in the room with a male patient, her looks (of what he can see), will distract him enough while the doctor performs the deed at hand. They don't seem to understand or they simply don't care that just having her and a female chaperone in the room is destroying him both psychologically and emotionally. Not many if any guys really want to be strapped into a set of stirrups to begin with much less having it done by a strange woman with another woman looking on the whole time. Very demeaning to the guy. Our country is in the process of attempting to craft a new healthcare bill for the nation. NOW is the time for anyone (male or female), who wants to see same gender caregivers assigned without question by the providers, for any intimate care, test, or procedure to get on the phone and/or write their representatives in Washington & tell them, the current ways DO NOT WORK for EVERYONE. They are unacceptable and must be changed. Same gender caregivers MUST be available at all hospitals, clinics, and doctors offices for ANY intimate care. NO MORE AMBUSHING male patients. Only the patient can force the system to change. It's up to the patient now to speak up or continue to face the humiliation and embarrassment forced upon us by a broken system. Regards, John
Name: 
John
Email: 
not.too.trusting@gmail.com
"Not many if any guys really want to be strapped into a set of stirrups to begin with much less having it done by a strange woman with another woman looking on the whole time." I once paid $300 for that exact same experience with a dominatrix and her assistant up in tinsel town in the 70's. Thems wuz the days.
Name: 
Henry
Email: 
flat5gitar@gmail.com
Henry -- To point out the obvious, you wanted to have that experience. You chose it for its own sake, you sought it out and paid for it, and got something you wanted from it. John did not want it, did not seek it out, and did not know it was going to happen.
Name: 
Anonymous
Email: 
guthfamily1@hotmail.com
Hi John, Excellent post. Men and Women both need to speak up when they don't feel comfortable with the care provided. In the case of urology, I simply wouldn't put up with being humiliated by women and I would only deal with a male doctor. For me, guy issues, guy doctor.
Name: 
Jesse Stone
Email: 
Jesse.stone307@yahoo.com
The problem can be resolved if you just go to a male doctor. Female patients are never put on the spot of a male doctor bringing a male nurse to accompany him so female doctors bringing in another female for no good reason (which is the case) is inappropriate.
Name: 
Jesse Stone
Email: 
Jesse.stone307@yahoo.com
Hello: Many men grow up with male doctors and most find it much easier to speak with another male where male related issues are concerned. Just like women find with female medical personnel. Another reason men have reservations about women in the medical field is the way many are treated when it comes to intimate male related tests and procedures. Years ago, the healthcare industry put into place protections to protect a woman’s dignity and modesty while also respecting their privacy. Case in point, how many male x-ray technicians do you see or hear of giving a woman her mammogram? I can count on one hand how many if any at all. During the same time period including up through today, the healthcare industry has seen to completely neglect to give those very same protections to their male patients. Case in point, man needs a scrotal ultrasound. Nine times out of ten, that test will be administered by a young female technician. And that same female technician will further embarrass the male patient by bringing alone a young female "chaperone" to observe. All without the male patient's approval. Ten times out of ten the same male patient won’t even be given a warning up front that a female technician will be administering the test whereby giving him a chance to cancel and go elsewhere. The male patient in the US healthcare system is given no respect at all. It’s that sour taste that the healthcare industry is leaving in many men’s mouths that is causing them to back away from using any female doctor and furthermore to just stay away from the healthcare system in general. Men are tired of the healthcare industry’s dog and pony show. They’d rather stay completely away than just hand over their privacy and dignity to the medical community just to be completely humiliated by the so-called healthcare professionals in return. NO protection for a male patient’s dignity and modesty along with NO respect for his privacy. It’s the biggest dirty little secret the healthcare industry still holds on to today. It's so taboo, they won't talk about it to the public. The culture today that exists in the medical community is toxic towards their male patients. For the most part their view of a male patient is a man who has absolutely no modesty whatsoever. Is a loud mouth complainer and show off who when he comes to a facility for service, should just shut up, do as he’s told, and take whatever the medical community chooses to do to him while he’s at their facility. It’s the attitude and treatment of men by healthcare personnel (especially female), that has cause many men to just say no more. So ladies, next time your grandfather, dad, brother, boyfriend, husband, or son doesn’t go get the medical help they need, think about it. Could it be because of the way they or someone they know was treated by the healthcare industry? Men are dying earlier than they should ladies and this is part of the reason why. The industry saw fit to put protections in place for their female patients. They now have a moral and ethical obligation to do the same for their male patients in a timely manner. Not five to ten years from now. Men have the SAME rights as women do when it comes to intimate care, tests, and procedure protections. A male patient’s right to have his privacy respected and his dignity/modesty protected is just as important as any female patient. That people is why there’s a trend for men to back away from using a female doctor. Many men just aren’t willing to trust female healthcare personnel any longer. Many female medical personnel have proven beyond any shadow of a doubt they aren’t to be trusted and it’s that mistrust in some that has cast doubt on all female healthcare personnel. The healthcare industry has created this problem all by themselves. Are they willing now to put protections in place to better protect their male patients whereby rebuilding trust by male patients in the system? Or are they just gonna say the almighty dollar and their bottom line is more important than saving the lives of men who are needlessly dying sooner than they should. It's called trading lives for dollars. I don't think they'll win any popularity contests. Do No Harm and CPR. Four words healthcare personnel know intimately. Burn them into your memory. ChoicePrivacyRespect three letters that can make a difference in the medical community. Give ALL not just a few of your patients Choice without always questioning why. Protect their Privacy like you would protect your own. Then in return, you will have earned your patients Respect and have their undying gratitude for a lifetime. What more can any healthcare worker ask for? Do No Harm and CPR go hand in hand. You can’t have one without the other and successfully take care of the public you serve. Regards,
Name: 
John
Email: 
raffie326@gmail.com
Really? You'd think you'd been abused.
Name: 
Mike
Email: 
Merchantmm@sbcglobal.net
Mike, The problem here is that you don't think that you were abused!
Name: 
Jesse Stone
Email: 
Jesse.stone307@yahoo.com
I applaud athena for even pondering this question. A few points. The number of practicing female physicians currently is higher than stated, closer to 37-38% and growing. But the flaw in the question about whether males comfortable with female physicians is that there are hardly any clinics in the US that a male receives the equivalent EXPERIENCE as the female patient. That is because nearly 100% of the assisting clinical staff are FEMALE. So if the physician needs a chaperone, or an assistant during an intimate procedure, or a tech to prep the patient for an intimate procedure, it is almost always a female (i.e, an all female team). Health care facilities have failed to higher diverse (i.e., male) staff so that patient preferences can be accommodated. I've had equal numbers of male and female primary care physicians in my life. I have no problem with female physicians but I do not feel comfortable having a room full of females when having an intimate exam or procedure. Women do NOT experience this. So ask this question again AFTER your clinics have hired plenty of male staff that can assist women physicians doing intimate exams on males and you will probably find a different answer. Of course that means clinics will need to hire comparable numbers of male and female staffs. Conversely, have your female patients ALWAYS have male assistants present for their intimate exams by a male physician and see if the percentage of women that return doesn't go down. I would predict it would. Again, thanks for the consideration.
Name: 
AB
Email: 
alden_bice@comcast.net
AR, I am a female but, I have been fighting for my husbands rights. You are so right. Men have no recourse. My husband has gone through a lot with female health care workers that he should not have. He had hernia surgery several years ago. All female staff except for his surgeon. He was delayed going in so later in afternoon to come out. After an hour in recovery nurse told him he had better pee soon or she would shove a catheter up his penis. He asked me to help him get to bathroom and if he couldn't go lie for him. I would have but mission accomplished. Three years ago he went in to as his doctor told him to be reamed out. No explanation, no nothiing. He finally talked to us a little before the procedure said we still could have sex but may have retrograde ejaculations, was going to put a scope in and open him up. Scrub tech came in and we were still nervous, she tapped his shoulder and said "don't worry honey I'm going to get to know you real well." Then she winked at me. We found out what they did and how on the Internet this summer while checking out knee replacement surgery. It is awful. He said never again. Procedure and going home with a catheter he was not told he would have was bad, but, seeing all the prep by women made him sick. Not one man on several we saw did the prep. Isn't this intimate care. Why women. Last year he was in hospital for obserrvation for one night Able to walk around on his own. Young female cna around our grandchildren age (18 to 20) said she had to give him a shower if he wanted one. He said my wife will help. She protested.Took him in shower and soon came back out very upset and told me if he needed help I was to help him. He hasn'ttold me what he said or did but she was not happy. His scrotal ultrasound, female tech and guess what, again wife not allowed but a female chaperone for her not him. He was to have colonoscopy in December but since they didn't have male nurses to assist he had me cancel. Got diverticulitis so our doctor made him reschedule. Still no male nurses. I had to have a procedure in same place in November and this place wouldn't let him go back with me to get ready at first. They said they had to ask me personal questions. Well I went back and told them I would answer no questions until they got him. Finally they got him. So I was on phone to make sure I was going back with him. They finally said they would ask him his abuse questions and then get me.Told me federal law. They usually make them do all the undress etc and then get spouse. We all deserve to have a say. I am fighting for men and women. Let's HIRE more male nurses and if they have to have the very little trained scrub tech, hire male techs for any procedure where a man is exposed at all. And, all you wives out there join me in fighting for our husbands health and right to modesty and dignity. Like my husband they will put off and cancel until they have to go for some reason or u til it is to late. Men join in and fight for your wives or significant others rights too. I could go on and tell what men have done to me but, I fight back and got one fired for his acts and have now made it my mission to fight for all of us to be treated with respect and to have our modesty and dignity in tact. I for one will not have surgery again unless I can wear a disposable spa bra and briefs on or no surgery. I will also have local anesthesia and stay awake until all prep done with no catheter. A lot of surgeries need no catheter and for new less invassive surgeries where they put you up in the stirrups we are all in full view of all I room. One tech at a site on You tube said they take everything off us for even minor hand surgery. That is how he does it. The heck with that. Fight for our bodies. This is so wrong. To help we can all call our local hospitals and put bug in their ears to get dignight briefs (uni sex) and bras invented for surgery by 2 operating room nurses in the UK. They are getting some hospitals here in US buying them but we need to get word out. What hospitals and clinics do to men and women is really abusive. If it feels wrong and so much of it does it is wrong.
Name: 
SJ
Email: 
Jonesseed@ecicwireless.com
SJ- Good for you. And your husband! I had never seen the inside of a hospital as a patient until my mid-forties, when I experienced the same indignities you encountered. My wife, however had had several surgeries before then , so I knew how callous medical staff can be. After one procedure her E.N.T. came to her room to listen to her heart, and instead of using his stethoscope through her gown, or even sliding it under the gown's edge, he just raised the top of it up to get a good look. I was furious, but young and unsure of myself so I said nothing. On another occasion she was returned to her room by two male scrub techs who clumsily moved her to her bed exposing her not to just me and them, but to our young pastor (who should have had the sense to step out of the room) I have long held much of the physicians and medical hierarchy in low regard for not only these affronts, but for the their self-perceived infallibility, and the attitude that "I am the doctor and you'll do things my way". Quite honestly I really just never knew we had a choice. Never again. I've read too many personal accounts of modesty violations to not be concerned, and I've shared my concerns with my wife who is to have a total knee replacement later this month, and a colonoscopy early next year- by a male GI. Unfortunately, she doesn't have the same concerns I do, having bought into the notion that "We are professionals, and have seen thousands of naked bodies...we don't care or even notice ". I've asked her to read just some of the materials I have found in order to make an informed decision, but she hasn't. My heart is broken. I would have been honored had she spoken up when two very young nurses exposed me when removing and then 12 hours later reinserting my Foley catheter-even though I had told them it was too early. (I speak from experience) That is why I was happy to read your account and to know that you and your husband are of the same mind. Best regards, Neal
Name: 
Neal
Email: 
Gunznmusik@gmail.com
I tend to agree, men are not shown respect for their beliefs or modesty. The patient "ambush" is quite typical even when an appointment is made with a male physician, it is not unusual for a female chaperone, female scribe or both to suddenly walk into the exam room with the hapless male patient sitting their in a state of undress. Informed consent is just that "informed" consent. Give the male patient a chance to say no or request a male instead of a female. I would suggest that the return rate would be much higher in the long run.
Name: 
Dwin Towell
Email: 
dwin@airmail.net
Hello: As others have eluded to here, men are not going back to their female MD’s usually because of a bad experience. The experience usually being she brings in a female chaperone on an intimate related test or procedure without clearing it first with her male patient. This should be a wakeup call to ALL female practitioners in private practice, clinics, and hospitals across this country. Your male patients are tired of being embarrassed, humiliated, and totally disrespected. The show’s OVER. Wake up and smell the coffee. It’s time for female practitioners EVERYWHERE to start advocating for their male patients and treat them with the same level of consideration and respect they give their female patients by having male caregivers on staff on every shift so as to accommodate a man’s request for same gender caregivers. No more trading men’s lives for dollars. Show male patients EVERYWHERE that you really do care about their health and hire the necessary staff in your practice. Next, talk to your colleagues and together start making a push in all the clinics and hospitals to start hiring male nurses and technicians to accommodate male patient needs. Ladies, you went into medicine to make a difference. HERE’S YOUR CHANCE. Strike while the iron is hot and make your mark on the industry. Men will continue to die at an early age without your help. Give men everywhere some CPR. Choice Privacy Respect Their family, and girlfriends will thank you for your help in saving their loved ones from an early departure from this life. The time is NOW. Regards, John
Name: 
John
Email: 
not.too.trusting@gmail.com
To allthe men who have responded I as a woman agree with your concerns. I have been fighting for basically my husbands rights to have male nurses. cnas, scrub techs and xray personel as he has had many embarrassing experiences. Many of which could have been remedied had they let me wife not some young female be his chaperone. Does it take a rocket scientist to realize that men feel as we women do as to our private area needs. Why should men have a ultrasound of his scrotal with a female tech and a young female chaperone. I was there and they said no I couldn't go back. (Due to many spouse complaints and male complaints they recently changed that at our clinic) Scrub tech for very personal TURP again female who made very bad comment, then wink at me thinking it was funny,nurse who told him after (again all female team for inguinal hernia) if you don't pee before 4:30 I am going to shove catheter up your penis (wehad made pact tolie as she was not going to o that to hm) because you are last one here and I am leaving at 5. CNA young enough to be our grandaughter insisting she give him a shower (when he was suppose to go home but wanted him to see a doctor the nest morning) and no was the answer to my helping him. Shut door in my face. She came storming out real quick and said if he needed help I was to help. These types of behavior are just uncalled for. Men deserve to be treated with the same respect as women. Not to say we don't have our fair share of problems with male CT tech who tell you to take bra of while " I stand behind the glass." He got fired, Only male nurse ever in our colonoscopy area throwing gown up and opff while door still open and thouroughly upsetting and humiliating me, Stess test gown totally open and male in room. Told to walk with gown open. Won't go back. So we women have some problems but I had the recourse on all of them to fight back. As far as doctors, I respect and admire the doctor for having the initiative and will to endure 12 years plus to give us medical care only to be replaced with nurse practioners, and PAs while they do the paperwork that they should have someone doing for them. Let them save our lives be they male or female but get us same gender supporting staff. Don't let CNAs do the nurses desired work while the nurse fills out more paper work. Get rid of the ever growing scribe. I want to see my doctor not a damn secretary and that is what I told the local clinic when my husband & I encountered the embarrassing intrusion of said scribes. We neither one talked about the problems we were sent for to the respective specialist. Why with HIPPA do we as spouses or significant others have to sign forms for us to make appointments, talk about spouses health problem or call to get information if other asks them to, but government allows clinics, hospitals and surgical centers to have opoosite gender staff for intimalte procedures and allow scribes who are really secretaries.in with the patient. We need to take control and demand better for ourselves and our families. So in conclusion it is not the Doctor I hate is is the opposite gender extended staff that I hate. When we are made to have catheters or have people of the opposite sex scrub our bodies while we are totally nude and knocked outin surgery this in my opinion is medical rape. Oh and we were told by our local hospital recently that the federal government made a law that the hospitals must take the patient back (for men this is of course opposite sex cna or nurse) and ask personal questions. For me when they took me back I refused to answer any questions until they got my husband. In Gods eyes we are one. How can our government pass laws to that effect. If we say we want a spouse or family member especially if person is of opposite sex we should have right to have them as a chaperone. We pay our insurance and medical bills. We should have a rigt to have team of our choice. Hire the male nurses that have worked to get a 4 year degree but don't seem to get hired because it would be discrimination of the female nurse. Many male RNs can not gfet a job because of this discrimination.
Name: 
SJ
Email: 
jonesseed@ecicwireless.com
Boy, do I agree with all this! :) I'm 70 yr old male and go to doctor about once every 10 or 15 years, unless something critical comes up like when I dislocated shoulder (even then I put it back in place myself before going!) or shingles, etc. All through my younger years, I preferred female docs, because my perception was that they are more nurturing and generally make better docs. Plus, at that time, I was a young male and actually liked the idea of a female doc checking me out in whatever way was needed. Pathetic, I know! :) But... now that I'm much older I really want an older male doc. Male, because I'd be too embarrassed now to have a female doc and/or assistant watching my old self get poked and prodded you-know-where, - and an older doc, because I think there would be a certain level of sensitivity to the plight of older patients in a way very difficult in a younger doc. Not saying young doc's aren't professional, of course, they can be more up-to-date and are certainly VERY professional - but I just feel, rightly or not, that an older doc will have a slight more patience with an older patient.
Name: 
LH
Email: 
LHarte@usa.com
I am OK with a female provider, but recently went through an "ambush" as others have experienced. You will NEVER EVER see a female patient with a Male Doctor and a Male Chaperone. Most woman would complain to highest realm not to undergo that experience. Why in the hell would ANY female doctor think a Male would feel comfortable submitting to a prostate exam or a testicle exam while there are not one, but 2 females in the room seeing his private parts? I have news for any female doctor or female nurse or technician who may ponder here. YES..... YES IT DOES MATTER, AND WE DONT LIKE IT. In the very least ASK US if we would be comfortable with a FEMALE CHAPERONE. DO NOT AMBUSH us. You wonder why so many men die of prostate cancer, and or wont seek medical attention? Are you brain dead? Or simply trying to downplay it for your job? YES WE DO HAVE MODESTY, and we want and DESERVE that modesty respected just like female patients get. The health care system had better wake up, and more men need to put their clothes back on and say no, we wont be treated like this. The system NEEDS to change.
Name: 
Jim
Email: 
jimpatdoyle@gmail.com
No, under no circumstances whatsoever will I see a woman doctor. Not for a cold, not for an injury, not in the ER, and definitely not for an intimate exam. I'd rather treat myself and I have. The Chaperone policy pisses me off. I was abused BY WOMEN. WOMEN, not a woman. And every single one got off the hook because "women never abuse anyone", "they were drunk and didn't know better" or "they were just playing, lighten up" -or the best one: "Don't men WANT to be touched there?". Not against our wishes! A man would've been thrown behind bars before the sentence was even finished. Yet a female doctor wants a female chaperone to protect herself from me? Women commit crimes, too. Even sexual ones*. A female doctor alone with me in a room with the door closed isn't happening. Not because she'd ever get away with anything but because I would end up in trouble for attacking her, even if it was self-defence on my part. *Women who try to touch my face, neck, back or chest or intimate areas are triggering a self-defence mechanism based on past abuse patterns.* But as for policy, it goes both ways: if women can request female-only staff, we can request male-only. I'm fine with women who want women doctor/nurses only - but I feel like women are asking for equality (which is very much fair and should be a given) AND to be treated with a double standard, all at the same time. Look, I think women deserve equal pay and certainly the right to do with your body as you please. And I don't hide this from anyone. But if you want equality, you have to give up the double standard of being a victim of societal discrimination. Here's an example: when a female requests a woman doc, no one blinks an eye and the male doc CAN'T say jack about it; it's perfectly fine because we've decided as a society that males can't be trusted as easily. When I request a male doc (and I do so extremely politely), I'm labelled as sexist, the female doc (or staff member) play the victim of sexism card, and I'm treated like crap. I always say, with a friendly smile, "I'd rather see a male doc if you don't mind." I do not act like an asshole. I really don't. In fact my male doctor's staff - aside from the fact that I don't talk to them much beyond one word answers or responding to the doctor instead of them through email- have no idea about my feelings. Because to be brutally honest, I'm slightly sexist. I know it's wrong on some level but I can't help how I feel(and I've tried to change it). I'd never vote for a policy that would allow such to become law. I would never abuse a daughter. I never speak it to my many female friends but I do prefer males in general. I don't think it's OK to "grab a woman by the p***y", either. I have this thing called class; I don't need to voice my opinion 95% of the time... and I don't. But I won't compromise on the doctor policy. More men would go to doctors routinely if we were heard.
Name: 
Zeke
Email: 
adrienwrenn@gmail.com
I agree a LOT with what you say here. Especially in the area of Equality. I don't mind a female doctor, providing she is fully upfront about the exam and what will happen. It would be nice if she came right out and said, "I need to have a chaperone in the exam...would you mind if I have my female tech to come in, I will give you the upmost in modesty"... instead of what happened to me... I was ambushed, and the female chaperone to whom I never met before, saw "all of me" in the exam. It was very uncomfortable. I think what men want in doctors offices THE MOST is the "ABILITY TO CHOOSE" what gender will be in the exam with them. In most cases, this is not afforded them, because the office knows that woman will speak up more than men, and woman wouldn't ever submit to an exam with a male doctor and a male chaperone. So for financial reasons woman nurses are hired over men. For some reason, the medical society believes that men have less modesty than woman, when that couldn't be further from the truth. The same goes for Male Ultra-sounds. 4 times I was sent for a scrotal ultra-sound, and 4 times I got a young female (different each time) for the procedure. Never was I offered a male tech. The last time, she completely pulled up the blanket, exposing me in full. While she was very kind, and it was professional, I often wondered why I was never offered the choice. I think its for the same reason. Woman wouldn't submit to a male tech and its a purely financial benefit for the office to have all females. The medical industry needs to seriously think about these very important issues and become more relevant in 2017 and beyond. The bottom line is not being fair to male patients who deserve the same attention to modesty as females get on a regular basis.
Name: 
Jim
Email: 
jimpatdoyle@gmail.com
What I see is a huge load of body shame and insecurity in the men who have excessive anxiety about female MDs and chaperones. I am a man who has no problem with a male or a female doctor or chaperone. The female MDs actually do a more complete exam in my experience. Most urology office exams in my experience are done by women, and that is not a problem for me.
Name: 
Reginald
Email: 
csorhc@yahoo.com
I would tend to disagree with you. Its not about body shame, or insecurity. Its 100% about patient comfort, and patient choice. If a man doesn't want a female, or 2 females in his exam, he has that right. Its HIS comfort. He pays the bill too. The medical industry has long gotten away with giving females ALL the modesty they desire in their intimate exams, while underserving males who rightfully should have the same right to modesty. NO ONE should feel embarrassed in their exam, by forcefully being seeing by doctors and nurses of the opposite gender. Then I will ask you..... how many "males" work in breast exam clinics......compared to the number of woman who work in ultra-sound clinics..... where men have to go to get scrotal exams. I've gone 4 times....examined each time by a female who saw all of my genitals.......... I asked for a male...... NO males employed there.... why? ....exactly....... Case in point.
Name: 
Jim
Email: 
jimpatdoyle@gmail.com
I recently had a urolift procedure in which I was placed in stirrups, genitals cleaned and anesthetized by a female nurse, prior to the procedure by my male urologist. The room had at least one other male and female present. I find it hard to call my penis my "privates" in that setting. I have completely bought into the fact that these professionals know the difference between nudity and sexuality. I am willing to be seen nude by those who are trained in medicine, knowing they are not seeing me in a sexual situation, but as a patient who came to them for help. I've never had a chaperone, but I have agreed to medical students giving me exams and have had females give me scrotal ultrasounds I understand modesty and fought hard to deal with it so this aspect of my life wouldn't be so stressful. I wish our society could return to a time where nudity did not automatically equate with sex. That would make all of this easier to deal with.
Name: 
Tom
Email: 
kayutazippy@gmail.com
Reg, You're missing the point completely. It's not about body shame or insecurity or anxiety, it's about showing men the dignity and respect that women receive in the health care system. You choose to have a female doctor and a female audience, that's your choice, other men such as myself don't want that.
Name: 
Jesse Stone
Email: 
Jesse.stone307@yahoo.com
AMERICA, THE AMA, AND MOST OF THE MEDICAL SOCIETY IS VERY BLIND AND IGNORANT WHEN IT COMES DOWN TO PATIENT MODESTY ESPECIALLY MEN. UROLOGY CLINICS RATE NO. 1 FOR THIS.
Name: 
Boris williams
Email: 
Williamsboris@yahoo.com
#FirstWorldProblems.....suck it up buttercup.
Name: 
SteveK
Email: 
stevek@verizon.net
Men ans boys asking for basic human rights are first world problems.
Name: 
Amila R
Email: 
aksoullanka19@gmail.com
I came across this by accident. I understand what the male posters have alluded in regards to chaperone. I am female. I recently had have a female examination - my male got a female chaperone, without my consent. It made me feel extremely uncomfortable. When being examined I don't want several people in the room. It makes you feel very vulnerable and exposed. I don't like the assumption that patients are always happy to be examined by the same gender.
Name: 
Sophia Rose
Email: 
sabrinastubbs86@icloud.com
Sophia, If I understand you correctly, you were offered a FEMALE chaperone. I think this was a valiant attempt for the (male) doctor to make you feel more comfortable, and he as well, as a male in a female exam. Men don't have a choice of gender for a chaperone in 99% of their exams. Whether the doctor is a male or a female. In my experiences, with a female doctor, each and every time, I have had a female chaperone, because the doctor's office doesn't hire males, because most female patients don't like male chaperons, or the experience of having 2 males in the exam room. Male patients either have to get mad, get dresses and say no, succumbing to lack of health care to save modesty, or "suck it up" and feel the embarrassment, and shame while 2 females probe and view our private parts. Often we feel uncomfortable talking about our male parts, erection difficulties, or other male issues in the presence of females. in any case, its just not right. Health care professionals need to give male patients, the same level of modesty as female patients receive. As more and more females come into the health care field than ever before, there needs to be a new way of teaching female health care workers to be trained in the important issue of modesty. When a male patient is going to have an intimate exam, the female Dr/NP etc needs to fully explain to the man that she will need to bring in a chaperone, and she will be female and ASK, if he would be comfortable with that, and the HIS modesty will be fully addressed in the exam to limit his exposure.
Name: 
Jim
Email: 
jimpatdoyle@gmail.com
Jim and Sophia Rose -- Both of you have legitimate complaints, which points to the real issue here: people are individuals, with differing needs and beliefs regarding dignity, modesty, and bodily privacy. With that in mind, all medical providers and staffers need to add the simple steps of INFORMING patients when they wish to bring additional personnel into the examining room, and ASKING if the patient is comfortable with that additional presence. And to add the obvious, these steps should be taken BEFORE anyone but the patient and the provider are in the room and any clothing has been removed.
Name: 
RG
Email: 
guthfamily1@hotmail.com
RG, I think you have made good points here. This is exactly why the Medical Field needs change. I think the change needs to start in Nursing Schools, and in doctor training. Men in particular need to start speaking out when they are ambushed. When a male patent says, no... I don't want 2 females in my exam, sits up, and says, the exams is done, then the office will lose money because of it. When you really examine why males are being given "less modesty" it all boils down to the money. They wont hire a male nurse or Male Chaperone, because females will say no, and they will lose business. However, that situation can be balanced out over time, if more men walk out of their exams. When it comes to men's health, men already resist going to the doctors office more than woman. Now add that men will have to be seen by more woman in exams, and I think you are going to see an increase in men's death rates, because it will be just one more excuse for men not to go to the doctor. And I think that defeats what the health care industry is there for. Men deep down would open up to health care professionals about issues they have, but not to 2 woman, in an exam room, dealing with the embarrassment of having to expose their genitals, and lack of modesty given, or talking about male issues.
Name: 
Jim
Email: 
jimpatdoyle@gmail.com
I have had several female medical professionals get snippy with me. The first was an specialist who gave me a prescription for new medication, a statin. and I asked her what kind of side effects I could expect with this medicine. Her response was " Well, I am sure you will read the package insert and decide you have every single one of them." It was the most unprofessional outburst I have ever had from a Medical Doctor. During a previous visit I had previously complained about side effects I had with another medicine she put me on for blood pressure and asked to be taken off of it. Apparently that royally pissed her off so when I asked about side effects it literally set this woman off. I had a similar situation with a female nurse practitioner at my GP's office. I had been taking a brand name blood pressure medicine for years and when a generic version came out the insurance company refused to pay for it and I got the generic instead and started having side effects. I told her I wanted to go back on the old medicine and needed her to write a medical need statement so the insurance would pay for it because the brand name cost twice as much as the generic drug. She said "Well, I will write it dispense as written and you can just pay for it, but I am not doing a medical need statement because the Generic is just as good and none of my other patients have problems with it." So, I never filled the prescription from the specialist wouldn't discuss side effects. I quit taking the other medicine and haven't been back to see either doctor. My blood pressure is about the same as it was on the pills. No idea what my cholesterol is and don't care. I haven't had it tested. I figure humans lived just fine for millions of years before statin drugs or blood pressure medications or for that matter much doctoring. We would all probably be better off without most doctor a anyway. All the hell most of them are is overpaid pill pushers for the Big Pharma industry.
Name: 
Trevor
Email: 
trevornolac@yahoo.com
Trevor, you have every right to have the medication that works BEST for you. It is no secret that Statins, and blood pressure medications effect men, much different than woman. What I mean is, those medications (many) can effect a mans ability to have an erection. Actually cause ED! I had a similar issue and got it resolved through asking about alternatives until I found one that didn't effect me in that way. It is the DOCTORS DUTY (male or female) to provide you with the medication that best works for you without causing side effects, in particular ED. I haven't had any problems with nasty females in the medical world, just insensitivity to my modesty, by having 2 females in my exam, which was embarrassing. I am glad you wrote in about medications, especially statins and BP meds, which effect men in a bad way as above. I believe that is a VERY important issue.
Name: 
Jim
Email: 
jimpatdoyle@gmail.com

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